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May 4, 2014. The day I converted to Catholicism. There for I am Catholic. I am against killing. I am peaceful. Just so you all know being peaceful is very hard. People are so used to the violence that happens as a result of bullying but that is not always going to be the case. Wrath is one of the most powerful of the 7 deadly sins. Bullying is a form of wrath. Revenge is also a form. What those men in the April 1999 Columbine Disaster did was revenge and unfortunately they let revenge and the pains of bullying get the better of them and they committed one of the worst attacks in history. Yes they did get the message of pain out and got people talking more about bullying but they also destroyed the lives of their parents as well as those people in that attack. They should have met me to get some help. If only I made this site years before this ambush. For sure I forgive them because of what pain they were in at the time of the attack but I am not happy for the actions they did to try and get their message out. Sure police and school authorities are now more aware on what bullying can lead to but killing someone because of that or to end it is not the best of actions and it is a permanent for such a small problem that people face in life.

At first I thought that Catholicism was all a joke and dumb. I never thought that they would be so peaceful at times. Throughout my time going to school learning about the faith, I was shocked to see them all so loving to each other similar to what my own family did. Despite not being Catholic we were all able to work together as a family and get through things that were hard to get through alone. I was raised in Calgary Alberta Canada. My parents did separate but it was not enough to stop us from being a family. Mom and Dad still stayed in touch and helped me grow up. Family always came first before school work in my house hold growing up. I was raised to care for one and other. Including people that were out side of the family. Some parents don’t do that but mine did. My father always told me that some people do not always understand the truth about caring and that some might mistake some of my caring actions for something bad or something else. Mom and Dad taught me every difference between right and wrong. Where ever I go the feelings of caring hit me. I see a person who needs help I want to help but sometimes they do not always want that help. Some lady mistook me for someone bad. My father told me that I was doing the right thing but some parents just want to be independent. But most of the time when I help people they are very nice to me. I think that was the first time that someone really did not want my help and that kind of shook me up. I was trying to be one of the few good people in the world but this lady was not the best of people.

When I was pulled out of regular school my mother was talking to a friend who knew someone who was going to Catholic school and she recommended it my mother and my father. My parents did not grow up learning about faith or understanding it but they soon saw how safe and better it was for people to learn about. So they talked it over with me. At the time I hated the Catholic faith because of what they did to Canadian First Nations and how they were against the gay community. But as soon as I got in I found out that things were way different. I learned that they do not discriminate gays. Sure I know that it says that the church is against gays but that one lady I met was very shocked and was like “Oh no, we don’t discriminate.” The moment that happened it was then I realized that the church is changing. Over the years as I kept on going to school learning about Catholicism I began to grow interested more and more into the faith, to the point when I all of a sudden thought. “I need to become Catholic.” So I did. I went to school for more courses and then that was the end of everything, All that hatred and anger feelings were gone. But they can at times come back to me and it is then during those times when I go to church on Saturdays or Sundays. Yes I do get thoughts of violence and hate but I know that if I ever do any of those actions I will end up just like the guys who got their revenge on those who wronged them. I still get mad and am still getting help or treatment for my anger but I think the biggest difference is that I am going to Church and letting that pain fly out of my body and moving on with life. Going to church is one of the best thing I like to do. I like to spend time doing Bible studies and saying a few prayers to my family.

Becoming Catholic made me learn that bullies were people that were in trouble and pain. It was then when I learned from that one teacher who used to hate but soon changed. Going to Catholic school changed my life for the better. I was making a tone of friends that I am still in touch with to this day. I always have to keep reminding myself that I cannot hurt anyone. I knew prior to that I was never allowed to hurt any one but now that I am in a religion I have to try and watch what I say or watch what kind of actions I do. Most important think before you take action is what I learned before.

I was surprised and happy to hear that other people in North America have found out about my website. I never thought that I would get so much good feedback. Some kids from The Brenham Community Center in Texas contacted me to suggest a site they really like.

The link is here.

I like this site because in some ways they are helping towards raising awareness to the terrible ways bullying can shape people’s lives in contemporary North America. They are right about bullying today. Bullying has grown from beyond the school campus to our living room house hold computers. They talked about how millions of lives can be saved through the anti-bullying programs. To me that is an absolute necessity to get a message like that out there to people who have been bullied around the world.

Bullying is a huge problem for millions kids world wide. Experts say at least 25% of kids have been bullied at some point in their lives, and we think the real numbers are much higher as the years go by.

Here’s our advice for stopping the bullying:

• If you can, ignore the bully. The bully wants to get a reaction from you. In lots cases, if you ignore them, they might go away.
• Tell the bully you feel threatened by them.  They may not even realize they are scaring you.
• If the bully doesn’t stop when you ask them to, tell a teacher or counselor. They can help you put a stop to bullying.
• Try to avoid being around the bully if at all possible.  By going places with your friends, instead of being alone, the bully might avoid you.  Remember, bullies are suffering from their own troubles, and they are more likely to approach you if you are alone.

Almost everyone has been bullied. If we are honest, most of us realize that at some point, we’ve been bullies, too. The challenge is to think about your actions and how they affect others. It may seem like an innocent joke or friendly teasing to you, but someone else could be hurt inside, threatened or scared by your actions. You can’t take things back what ever you say and what ever action you do, it is done. You cannot take that back at all. The truth is you can’t really stop the bullying because it is up to the bully alone to stop doing what he or she is doing. I know it can take a long time but it is worth to wait. You might have better times to do while you wait. Do not be a bully yourself. Things will get better. The biggest place for help most of all are your parents. Stop holding in all that pain and start talking to your parents. They can help you any time for you. Do not ignore them when they ask you if something is wrong. Because that is the last think you would ever want to do in the cases of bullying. I did that once and let me tell and promise you this. It did not end that well at all.

Sadly some people take all of that anger out by hurting others. Yes it is a very easy thing or way to get rid of that anger but it also hurts other people around you. Pain leads to attacks. Attacks are permanent damages that can’t take back and they can stay in your memories for the rest of your life and truly hurt your inner feelings later on as you continue to live life. Attacking people is not the best. There is a reason why schools have better systems in this day in age. The school I went to had some of the best staff you can think of. They were all very supportive and treated you like you mattered. I was also raised to care for one and other. My parents may have been separated all through out my life but they still stuck together and taught me the truth about life and all the good side of living.

A lot of us have been bullied at one point or another.  Our goal with this website is to help you realize that you are not alone.

I need to tell you all something.

Let me be honest with everyone here. I used to be a bully, it all started when I was a victim of bullying. People started saying that my diagnosis of autism was a bad thing to happen. I needed to get my anger out so I started yelling at other people’s faces, I was never going to stop it was always yelling or hitting. I did hit people. But it was more like in the shoulder or the arm. I never hit people in the face before. A class mate in my school said she hates autism and the trouble it makes. I started shoving people and calling them stupid, not only that but I was becoming more and more short tempered, it got so bad that my mother had to take me out of the JR high I was at. I was moved to a better school and things were getting better. But today I say that the war I faced in school is nothing compared to what I’m facing now. When that school year was over, I started suffering form high stress and dealing with rage problems. If I were to go back and change history for the better I would. It is that feeling that we will all get now and then. When we wish that we could take all the bad stuff we did back and change history. Sadly we can never change the past. In a lot of cases that is getting the better of me.

I have flash backs from what happened when I was bullied. Every time someone mimicks my name or even says I can’t do something, that’s it, it’s a trigger it makes me get trapped into a rage. There have been times when I was pulled out of class rooms and even having a huge talk with teachers in that class. Sadly my friends and my sisters are becoming witnesses to some of my rage attacks. There are times when I wish that I would have died during my times at grade 7 bully.

Grade 7 was when I was 13 years old. Three years later I was in Grade 10 (high school) and was 16 years old, and I still could feel the pain from bullying. I got very dangerous angry moments. When I get angry, I used to yell at the top of my lungs or I feel like I’m ready for a big fight. I want people to know that it’s easy to bully people because you have the power, strength, and the energy to end it. But at the end of the day anger is what they want you to do. If you get mad they might be the winners. Now I am out of high school and moving on with my life. Including all the friends I made. I was making a lot of friends when I changed schools I didn’t have any friends when I was in grade 7. A lot of the friends I made in grade 6 moved on to find other people.

On the hit talk show Dr. Phil he spoke to a woman who is in her mid to late 30’s and she loves being a bully to people. On the interview she bullied actor Max Adler who played the school bully Dave on Glee, she claimed that Adler was trying to promote bullying. In real life Max is a great guy who is against bullying. But that episode revealed that she went through some very scary and traumatic moment in her life. She had some issues

In 2011 a movie called Bully was released in the cinemas. The movie was a documentary about young teens dealing with bullying and how the pain destroyed their lives. Including their families. Some of the people who attended included teen super stars Miranda Cosgrove, Victoria Justice, and (at the time rising star) Ariana Grande. Hard to believe that big time stars are putting up videos about bullying. The school I went to had a counsellor to talk to if you have any feelings. The principal was a great man who is always open to talk to if you are feeling like you are being bullied. The teachers are the best too. My grade 8 social teacher told me that bullies are people too. Now that I am grown up I can see what he meant by that.

Then that all changed forever when the movie A Girl Like Her came out in 2015. A Girl Like Her changed mocumentary films forever. This film made the usual comedy up beat funny mocumentary films into serious tear triggering dramas. Like How To Eat Fried worms this drama showed what the troubles are in the bully’s life. Another difference, the original movie is an elementary school family comedy, this movie is a teen high school drama. Much more sad and darker.

It is true. Plus bullies I feel might have something going on with them with their personal life. It might be becasue they do not have a strong self-esteem. A close friend of mine said that people were picking on her because they wanted to feel good about who they are.

Bullying has reached a milestone the movies. John Bender from the hit 1980’s teen film The Breakfast Club is a troubled young man with abusive parents that burn his arms with cigars and even hit him throughout the film he makes fun of people’s nice clothes, jewellery, he tells stories about how he is “taken care” of at his house hold. Biff Tannen we all know from the Back To The Future film series is a non-stop bullying person from when he was a teenager, all the way until when he was an adult. Until things change from when the main character goes back in time. But of course that is a movie and movies can makes things look real when in real life they are not.

In the movies bullying ends. In real life bullying is very hard to end. In some ways, bullying did end for me, but the memories are remaining. If bullies are being banned from schools, it’s going to be a big day in your school. But some of the people who bullied me ended up being my friends because I found out about their personal troubles at home and they wanted to be mean to someone so that they can feel better about who they are. But after some times they got to know me and we became good friends. I once thought that this was the end of my happiness. But my mother and father said otherwise. This is not the end of your happiness.

When some person is bullying you. It is not the end of the world. Things will get better. It may not be in the same way I went through but I can say they do get better. You will have to tell your parents about what is going on. Don’t wait until they are done work, you call them and tell them what the problems are at school. Call them or talk to them immediately. It is highly vital that parents know about the things people are doing to one another. I didn’t tell my parents until the end of the day and that did not makes things good for my mother or father. So there is the lesson learned right there. Always talk to your parents.